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		<title>By: Jessica</title>
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		<dc:creator>Jessica</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 26 Sep 2009 04:42:26 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Before the explanation, I was actually thinking of how Jeannie would live her life like she always wanted and tell her kid stories of fey and how her/ his dad was. Since she&#039;s also fey, when the time comes for her to die, she&#039;ll also go into the ground and reunite with her Robbie. I had actually thought that the fey people wouldn&#039;t accept her cuz she was an outsider, meaning it wasn&#039;t her time to come to the kingdom yet. Because essentially, she&#039;s fey herself. On another note, it would be hard on Jeannie if she were to meet another guy and explain to him why her child&#039;s different. His/ her name wouldn&#039;t help the situation either.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Before the explanation, I was actually thinking of how Jeannie would live her life like she always wanted and tell her kid stories of fey and how her/ his dad was. Since she&#8217;s also fey, when the time comes for her to die, she&#8217;ll also go into the ground and reunite with her Robbie. I had actually thought that the fey people wouldn&#8217;t accept her cuz she was an outsider, meaning it wasn&#8217;t her time to come to the kingdom yet. Because essentially, she&#8217;s fey herself. On another note, it would be hard on Jeannie if she were to meet another guy and explain to him why her child&#8217;s different. His/ her name wouldn&#8217;t help the situation either.</p>
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		<title>By: Emmy</title>
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		<dc:creator>Emmy</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 16 Mar 2009 22:56:10 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>The end left me feeling kind of sad, but I definitely think it was the best one. For some reason, I didn&#039;t like Robbie that much. He kind of creeped me out, and I kept waiting for him to do something terrible to Jeannie. So when he came back, I was going, &quot;She&#039;s not &lt;i&gt;really&lt;/i&gt; going to give up being a doctor to live with fairies, is she?&quot; While I&#039;m a big believer in happy endings, I would have been more unhappy if she&#039;d given up her dreams and independence to spend eternity with a fairy guy.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The end left me feeling kind of sad, but I definitely think it was the best one. For some reason, I didn&#8217;t like Robbie that much. He kind of creeped me out, and I kept waiting for him to do something terrible to Jeannie. So when he came back, I was going, &#8220;She&#8217;s not <i>really</i> going to give up being a doctor to live with fairies, is she?&#8221; While I&#8217;m a big believer in happy endings, I would have been more unhappy if she&#8217;d given up her dreams and independence to spend eternity with a fairy guy.</p>
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		<title>By: Mary Elizabeth S.</title>
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		<dc:creator>Mary Elizabeth S.</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 16 Mar 2009 04:42:33 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>When I first read the story, I didn&#039;t think the Robbie that came back from the dead was the same Robbie who died.  I mean, I knew it was the same person, but he seemed completely changed.  

But then when I looked back at it, I realised he hadn&#039;t changed that much, really.  When he was alive, he didn&#039;t want to go to the city, he didn&#039;t want to go to school, and he couldn&#039;t understand why Jeannie did want those things.  Then when he was dead/fairy-ified, he couldn&#039;t understand why she didn&#039;t want to go live in happy fairy magic land with him.  He always wanted her to want what he wanted, and he never did figure out, really, why she would want something else.  (I&#039;m pretty sure now that I&#039;m misspelling the word &quot;want&quot;---it looks all wrong.)

~Mary</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>When I first read the story, I didn&#8217;t think the Robbie that came back from the dead was the same Robbie who died.  I mean, I knew it was the same person, but he seemed completely changed.  </p>
<p>But then when I looked back at it, I realised he hadn&#8217;t changed that much, really.  When he was alive, he didn&#8217;t want to go to the city, he didn&#8217;t want to go to school, and he couldn&#8217;t understand why Jeannie did want those things.  Then when he was dead/fairy-ified, he couldn&#8217;t understand why she didn&#8217;t want to go live in happy fairy magic land with him.  He always wanted her to want what he wanted, and he never did figure out, really, why she would want something else.  (I&#8217;m pretty sure now that I&#8217;m misspelling the word &#8220;want&#8221;&#8212;it looks all wrong.)</p>
<p>~Mary</p>
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		<title>By: Selena</title>
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		<dc:creator>Selena</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 15 Mar 2009 07:44:40 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>This was a heart wrenching story, but a beautiful one...life is full of choices, heartbreak, people and fairies are cruel, but life goes on and she got her freedom. Loved this story. Would love to read more.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This was a heart wrenching story, but a beautiful one&#8230;life is full of choices, heartbreak, people and fairies are cruel, but life goes on and she got her freedom. Loved this story. Would love to read more.</p>
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		<title>By: Justine</title>
		<link>http://justinelarbalestier.com/blog/2009/03/12/happy-endings/comment-page-1/#comment-76792</link>
		<dc:creator>Justine</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 13 Mar 2009 18:53:27 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thanks for all the great comments. You has made me blush.

Sherwood: &lt;i&gt;I’m wondering if some of these are younger readers, who expect fantasy stories to adhere to certain rules, one of which is that faerie is wonderful and eternal youth and prettiness and happiness.&lt;/i&gt;

You&#039;ve hit the expectations bang on the head, but it&#039;s definitely not just younger readers, I&#039;ve been getting the same complaint from readers of all ages. 

I think Jennifer above is correct about the strong pull of the so-called romantic ending. I have several readers tell me that if a couple isn&#039;t together at the end of the story they don&#039;t consider it to be a happy story.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thanks for all the great comments. You has made me blush.</p>
<p>Sherwood: <i>I’m wondering if some of these are younger readers, who expect fantasy stories to adhere to certain rules, one of which is that faerie is wonderful and eternal youth and prettiness and happiness.</i></p>
<p>You&#8217;ve hit the expectations bang on the head, but it&#8217;s definitely not just younger readers, I&#8217;ve been getting the same complaint from readers of all ages. </p>
<p>I think Jennifer above is correct about the strong pull of the so-called romantic ending. I have several readers tell me that if a couple isn&#8217;t together at the end of the story they don&#8217;t consider it to be a happy story.</p>
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		<title>By: Ellie</title>
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		<dc:creator>Ellie</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 13 Mar 2009 07:50:11 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I loved the ending. Yes Jeannie lost the boy she loved but even when he came back he wasn&#039;t the same guy anymore. She got to have a chance at having a real life which I think is one of the best things that could happen to her even if it was harder because she was young and had a kid, at least she got to have a little bit of Robbie forever.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I loved the ending. Yes Jeannie lost the boy she loved but even when he came back he wasn&#8217;t the same guy anymore. She got to have a chance at having a real life which I think is one of the best things that could happen to her even if it was harder because she was young and had a kid, at least she got to have a little bit of Robbie forever.</p>
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		<title>By: Liset</title>
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		<dc:creator>Liset</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 13 Mar 2009 04:02:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>yay!
this post made me happy,
because I didn&#039;t really like Robbie.
He was creepy, and kind of a jerk...</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>yay!<br />
this post made me happy,<br />
because I didn&#8217;t really like Robbie.<br />
He was creepy, and kind of a jerk&#8230;</p>
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		<title>By: marty</title>
		<link>http://justinelarbalestier.com/blog/2009/03/12/happy-endings/comment-page-1/#comment-76779</link>
		<dc:creator>marty</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 13 Mar 2009 02:56:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>After not finding HtDYF because it turned out I was looking for it before the release date (doh!), I bought one on release day and handed it to my 13yo daughter... who is still reading it allegedly. At least, she seems to be somedays, she has school books to read as well. At least she&#039;s a reader, not like the son. 
I&#039;ll have to steal it off her soon and have a read :D</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>After not finding HtDYF because it turned out I was looking for it before the release date (doh!), I bought one on release day and handed it to my 13yo daughter&#8230; who is still reading it allegedly. At least, she seems to be somedays, she has school books to read as well. At least she&#8217;s a reader, not like the son.<br />
I&#8217;ll have to steal it off her soon and have a read <img src='http://justinelarbalestier.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_biggrin.gif' alt=':D' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>By: Lizabelle</title>
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		<dc:creator>Lizabelle</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 13 Mar 2009 01:41:21 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I spent years of my childhood mourning the death of a certain character in LM Montgomery&#039;s Rilla of Ingleside. These days I still mourn, but I understand and appreciate Montgomery&#039;s thinking better.

It took me a long time, and a fair few knocked-off corners, to realise that stories didn&#039;t have to have fairytale endings - that sometimes, the fairytales were great, and sometimes the more realistic endings were better. I know which ending I&#039;d prefer if I were reading your story now.

That reminds me - I saw How to Ditch Your Fairy in my local (tiny) Angus &amp; Robertson the other day! Stacked with the cover on full view, and everything. I was very pleased.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I spent years of my childhood mourning the death of a certain character in LM Montgomery&#8217;s Rilla of Ingleside. These days I still mourn, but I understand and appreciate Montgomery&#8217;s thinking better.</p>
<p>It took me a long time, and a fair few knocked-off corners, to realise that stories didn&#8217;t have to have fairytale endings &#8211; that sometimes, the fairytales were great, and sometimes the more realistic endings were better. I know which ending I&#8217;d prefer if I were reading your story now.</p>
<p>That reminds me &#8211; I saw How to Ditch Your Fairy in my local (tiny) Angus &amp; Robertson the other day! Stacked with the cover on full view, and everything. I was very pleased.</p>
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		<title>By: Rachel</title>
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		<dc:creator>Rachel</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 13 Mar 2009 01:39:46 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Wow, I didn&#039;t even notice this story had an &quot;unhappy&quot; ending. I was so glad she got away from the guy who was irrationally accusing her of cheating, even against all evidence, and seemed to have no love or respect for her.

But that&#039;s just me.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Wow, I didn&#8217;t even notice this story had an &#8220;unhappy&#8221; ending. I was so glad she got away from the guy who was irrationally accusing her of cheating, even against all evidence, and seemed to have no love or respect for her.</p>
<p>But that&#8217;s just me.</p>
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		<title>By: Jennifer</title>
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		<dc:creator>Jennifer</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 12 Mar 2009 22:37:57 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>People generally want the love interests to get together, period, no matter what, regardless of logic. (Or in the case of Twilight, also have a baby, regardless of logic.) That&#039;s basically what you ran into here.

Now, reading your explanation, I&#039;d agree with you on this.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>People generally want the love interests to get together, period, no matter what, regardless of logic. (Or in the case of Twilight, also have a baby, regardless of logic.) That&#8217;s basically what you ran into here.</p>
<p>Now, reading your explanation, I&#8217;d agree with you on this.</p>
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		<title>By: DavidT</title>
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		<dc:creator>DavidT</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 12 Mar 2009 22:27:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I&#039;m going with Sherwood here. I haven&#039;t read the whole story (cardinal sin for providing criticism or comment, I know), but with the excerpt you posted and then the explanation of Robbie and the ending, I think I can see what it would be like. It seems to me a retelling of the old fairy stories about changelings and the party under the hill -- characteristically light on the surface, and in the beginning, and very heavy at the end, and when you probe deeper. The perpetual faery party always ends up really being death; hell that looks like a never-ending good time. Depending on how sledge-hammery you were with that trope, it could take quite a bit of thinking-time for that to sink in, particularly with younger readers. As is the case for the protagonists of those sorts of stories, probably not coincidentally. Robbie, like other fae characters in these type of stories, is emotionally immature, demanding, and unable to see how giving in to the call of the neverending party (particularly with him in it) could possibly be a bad choice. Jeannie represents burgeoning maturity that learns to see that choices and endings are always mixed. I expect that the story will stick with your younger readers and they&#039;ll remember it from time to time, as I did with other versions of the same thing, with increasing understanding of Jeannie&#039;s choice - making it a much better story than all those ones with happy endings, at least on some criteria.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;m going with Sherwood here. I haven&#8217;t read the whole story (cardinal sin for providing criticism or comment, I know), but with the excerpt you posted and then the explanation of Robbie and the ending, I think I can see what it would be like. It seems to me a retelling of the old fairy stories about changelings and the party under the hill &#8212; characteristically light on the surface, and in the beginning, and very heavy at the end, and when you probe deeper. The perpetual faery party always ends up really being death; hell that looks like a never-ending good time. Depending on how sledge-hammery you were with that trope, it could take quite a bit of thinking-time for that to sink in, particularly with younger readers. As is the case for the protagonists of those sorts of stories, probably not coincidentally. Robbie, like other fae characters in these type of stories, is emotionally immature, demanding, and unable to see how giving in to the call of the neverending party (particularly with him in it) could possibly be a bad choice. Jeannie represents burgeoning maturity that learns to see that choices and endings are always mixed. I expect that the story will stick with your younger readers and they&#8217;ll remember it from time to time, as I did with other versions of the same thing, with increasing understanding of Jeannie&#8217;s choice &#8211; making it a much better story than all those ones with happy endings, at least on some criteria.</p>
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		<title>By: Alexa</title>
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		<dc:creator>Alexa</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 12 Mar 2009 19:39:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>All the stories seemed to have that slightly wistful feel to them.

She made the right choice, I wouldn&#039;t have fancied going down into a world ruled by a Queen who was in love with my man. I can imagine life may have been a little awkward!

When Robbie came back I did think I was about to hate it. I loathe people coming back from the dead (Heroes is driving me crazy - just kill someone already!) but it was a good ending.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>All the stories seemed to have that slightly wistful feel to them.</p>
<p>She made the right choice, I wouldn&#8217;t have fancied going down into a world ruled by a Queen who was in love with my man. I can imagine life may have been a little awkward!</p>
<p>When Robbie came back I did think I was about to hate it. I loathe people coming back from the dead (Heroes is driving me crazy &#8211; just kill someone already!) but it was a good ending.</p>
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		<title>By: Shveta</title>
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		<dc:creator>Shveta</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 12 Mar 2009 19:23:14 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I agree with Sherwood.  I&#039;ve read the story, Justine, and I thought the ending suited the circumstances nicely.  And I very much liked the feminist slant. :)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I agree with Sherwood.  I&#8217;ve read the story, Justine, and I thought the ending suited the circumstances nicely.  And I very much liked the feminist slant. <img src='http://justinelarbalestier.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>By: Sherwood</title>
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		<dc:creator>Sherwood</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 12 Mar 2009 18:41:59 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I&#039;m wondering if some of these are younger readers, who expect fantasy stories to adhere to certain rules, one of which is that faerie is wonderful and eternal youth and prettiness and happiness.

I&#039;ll bet this story sticks with them in mind, and evolves as life experience shows them that not all choices are black and white, but gray, dun, beige . . . and sometimes silver.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;m wondering if some of these are younger readers, who expect fantasy stories to adhere to certain rules, one of which is that faerie is wonderful and eternal youth and prettiness and happiness.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ll bet this story sticks with them in mind, and evolves as life experience shows them that not all choices are black and white, but gray, dun, beige . . . and sometimes silver.</p>
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		<title>By: Brendan Podger</title>
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		<dc:creator>Brendan Podger</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 12 Mar 2009 13:22:09 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>A pet peeve of mine is when a story has that perfect happy ending that doesn&#039;t ring true.  Congratulations on not going for the easy &#039;happy&#039; ending.  Peoples lives are complex and sometimes the choices they are left with at the end of a story are complex too.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A pet peeve of mine is when a story has that perfect happy ending that doesn&#8217;t ring true.  Congratulations on not going for the easy &#8216;happy&#8217; ending.  Peoples lives are complex and sometimes the choices they are left with at the end of a story are complex too.</p>
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